When the time comes, I will be in peace, enjoying heaven along with the family that has past before me. My loved ones may mourn my death and cry until resignation comes that they will never see me again. It may be a hard thing to ask for, but I would prefer that the people that loved me celebrate my life, and that they smile for the memories we had together. Do not be sad, as I will no longer have suffering, stress or worries.
Now that I have your attention, let me rephrase the title. I may die soon.
Not that I want it to be that way, but I know it’s a possibility for me and the people around me. It’s a hard thing to say, even a hard thing to hear from a loved one. But even if most of us are afraid of the thought of death, I believe having that thought present does have a positive. You begin to reconsider of how and with whom you spend your time with. You begin to cherish the moments because you know that one experience may be your last. You begin to take advantage of all the opportunities you can get, because you know there may never be another.
I believe the thought of death will have a different effect on people, and I can only talk about how it’s affecting me.
Even though I love helping people, I consider myself selfish in many ways. Having this thought present has probably made me more selfish. I begin to do what feels right to me, and only me. I believe in the idea that everyone was given their own life to live, nobody (not the parents, spouse, family, friends, religion) should tell you how to live your life. Many of the decisions I take in my life, I go with my gut feeling – and it has helped me live a happy live thus far. Even if I know the decision will benefit no one other than me, I still do it. I make my decisions based on my ideals, goals and desires, nothing else matters. We live in a society where being selfish is looked as bad by society and religion. Being selfish does not mean you will hurt other people, it means you will do things for your own benefit and pleasure, but that is okay.
Take all opportunities
I know many of the opportunities I have today, I will no longer have tomorrow. The goal is to take advantage of as many opportunities as I can, because those opportunities may never come back.
I always try not to worry, especially about insignificant things. I’ve learned that problems are only life’s lessons and I benefit from it, regardless of the outcome, as long as I learn from the experience. Worrying about material things is an example of insignificant. Material things are nothing more than objects that provide self fulfillment but can easily be replaced.
A wise man once said, “Why worry about a problem that has a solution, if you know it has a solution. Why worry about a problem that does not have a solution, if you know it does not have a solution.”
Try not to waste time being upset
There’s been times when I go without talking to someone for days because of a disagreement. Many times I have said, give me some time to get over it, allowing the time for me forget about an incident, rather than me trying to deal with the problem. I have to remind myself to deal with any issues and express how I trully feel. Most importantly, learn to forgive while I still can.
Do what you love
“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of other’s opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.” – Steve Jobs
This quote often comes to mind. I begin think about of why I decided to work at a job for a year, when I was never passionate about the work. Why did I do the things I never wanted to do in the first place? The answer is because I let other peoples values and opinions come before my own. This goes back to the idea of becoming more selfish.
When you are living a fulfilled life, you worry less about death. When you stop fearing death, not many things will be left to fear. Death will come to all of us, there’s no escaping it. Once we accept it and begin to live our life without fear, we begin to do things that are meaningful.
I’ve asked myself a question recently that I haven’t been able to answer yet. The question is, Do you prefer to live a long life, always on the “safe side”, giving up many of your goals and desires, and be able to reach 80-90 years old, or do you prefer to live a shorter life on the edge, taking risks, but knowing most goals and desires will be fulfilled? Is it possible to have best of both worlds?
There are many things that I may do, having the thought in mind that I may die soon. My ideals and goals may even change over time. Just know that everything I do is because I embraced the moment.
This writing is not to have you thinking of death, but the opposite. It’s to encourage you to think life. Live your life. Live the moment as if it were your last. Carpe Diem.