Quarter century (+ 1) and feeling good!

Happy BDay to Me

I’ll soon turn a quarter century (+1) old and I won’t even complain (feel old)! In the contrary, I feel damn good! I guess every year after the 21st birthday people worry about how much age is changing the good looks. You know, when gravity takes over and things are falling – things are not as TIGHT as they used to be! We all look in the mirror, examining how much less hair we have and how many more wrinkles we have.

Things Change

Us men do feel bad when we notice that we can’t play sports how we used to. It’s not that we are not able to, but we just choose to be out of shape by doing other activities – such as drinking beer, eating tacos, chips, carnitas, excessive tv etc. Not to mention, after a certain age, our bodies are not as active as they used be – all we do is work, family, eat, s*x, beer, tv, sleep, work, family, eat, s*x, s*x… I guess the only exercise some people get is s*x. That’s one of my preferred ways to staying healthy (he he). If you don’t have a partner, you better be dancing or something because pleasuring yourself doesn’t really stimulate metabolism (unless you do it for hours, and hours – ugh! what the hell am I thinking).

Okay, enough of that.

So I’m still young (I really am!) but I am thinking about how to keep myself healthy. I go for a walk, I take the stairs (rather than elevator), jog, and my personal favorite – weight training. Exercising, of course, has to come with taking vitamins and limiting the amount of junk food that I eat. Creating a good healthy habit will help me stay strong for a while longer.

Eternal youth secret

But here is the real secret for eternal youth: If you want to be young all there is to it is knowing in your mind that you are young. This way you will always feel young and your body will do the same. I know it sounds crazy, but just do it. Doesn’t matter if you are 20, 30, 40, or 60! Age is really in the mind, so if you feel old, chances are you are and people see you old.

If you want to know more about this, just read The Secret. You can watch the movie but I suggest you read the book. I first read the book and got a lot out of it. I haven’t watch the movie but I will soon. The reason I recommend to read the book is because people read when they are in a quiet or calm place. When reading, it’s easier for you to really absorb the message. If you just watch the movie, you can sit on a couch for an hour, think it’s good, but once it’s over you will change the channel and forget what you just watched.

If you get nothing out of it then good luck to you.

Feeling good

So I’m a quarter century (+ 1) old and I’m feeling damn good. If you are like me, it don’t matter if you are 40, we’ll always be looking good and brushing the dirt off our shoulders. We’ll be hearing ladies say “He’s a DILF!” when walking on the street ( ha ha ). Of course, all I will do is turn around and say, “That’s what my wife says”. Okay, the point is not to be conceited, but to feel good.

Happy BDay to Me – My Wish List

For a while I’ve have been creating a wish list in Amazon for the books I want to read. All of them are related to Web programming and they are on my waiting list to be read. If you are a good friend or feeling generous and want to gain some extra points, think about checking out my wish list and buying me a nice birthday present. That’s really all I want for my birthday – unless you can spare one Million bucks. I’ll take either one.

I hope you enjoyed reading this post with some added humor. Be nice, buy me a book!

Happy 2009!

Quarter century (+ 1) and feeling good!

Can you spare some extra change?

I get this question so much by people standing outside of grocery stores and gas stations. Sometimes I do give in because I feel they are being true – and really in need. Damn, most of the time I’ve been wrong! After I give somebody some spare change for food, I see them going into a liquor store and walking out with a 40 ouncer. (That asshole!) People like this make lose my will to people who are really in need.

Can you spare some extra change?

Internet Explorer 6 is a pain in the ass

I can’t believe many people still use IE6! I mean, come-on! Haven’t they heard of IE7 or IE8? Better yet, have they not heard of FireFox? For the computer illiterate, IE6 is not only a online security issue, but it also lacks to give you the best online experience. If you are currently using IE6, I suggest you upgrade ASAP!

Why does it bother me so much?

Since IE6 is so terrible structured, Web programmers and Web designers have to write extra code that functions only with IE6. Something that looks perfectly fine in IE7 and FireFox may not look fine in IE6. This is just a waste of time.

IE6 users: C’mon just get your computer up to date with technology.

Internet Explorer 6 is a pain in the ass

Take action during tough economic times

We may be facing the toughest economic times we have seen in decades. Recent reports of record layoffs; the mortgage meltdown; financial failures; the weak US dollar; increases in the price of gasoline, corn, wheat, beef, and other commodities; and more, have dramatically impacted the struggles facing the average household. Many can’t meet their debt payments, have lost their jobs, or can’t afford the basics to live comfortably.

Most households (more households than not) in North America need a part-time income in addition to their full-time income. They are looking for residual income that can change their lives.

There has never been a time in our history when more baby boomers want to work from home and secure their retirement, when more Moms want to be home with their kids, and when families “feel” the need to get out of debt and relieve themselves of the burden it places on their time freedom.

Although I see people who are going through a financial crisis, it saddens me that most are not taking action to take control of their lives. What I mean by this is that most people are just waiting, hoping the economy gets better soon, but economic studies show that the economy crisis will only get worse. Bankruptcies, foreclosures, layoffs, and budget freezes are going to increase even past 2010. Yet we see the cost of important necessities going up.

If all these occurrences have not given you a Wake Up call, shame on you. It is time to stop hoping for a miracle. Don’t wait, do it now! Get your bootay up from that computer chair and derive how you are going to pay your bills while saving money, better yet, call me and tell me you are making a change, perhaps ask me how we can make a change together. Ask yourself, what would you do if you were laid off tomorrow? If you don’t have a job, what are you doing to not rely on an employer’s check? If you are on unemployment support, that does not last forever.

Planning to make a change is only the beginning and the easy part. The hard part is staying committed to your decisions. But today I’m not going to talk about commitment, this is something you can figure out by your own experiences.The point is to take action during tough economic times. Most people see tough times as a disgrace but only a select few see it as opportunity. Don’t get me wrong, these select few may also go through tough times, but they take action and never quit.

Are you asking yourself how I’m preparing?

If so, that’s a good question. Although I have a good paying job, descent experience, and in a growing field, I’m still not going to rely on just that. I still see friends who are in the same field and being laid off. I’m preparing by having multiple sources of income, including residual income. Nothing can be better for retirement than having residual income. Having multiple sources of income is not just being prepared but also taking advantage during tough economic times.

What am I working on?

It’ll be to easy for you if I write it here. If you are honestly thinking about making a change, contact me and ask me how we can work together. A man with ability and the desire to accomplish something can do anything. -Donald Kircher

Take action during tough economic times

Where the hell is Matt?

Matt has become quite a phenomena with his cool dance. I believe he began dancing just for fun in one of his vacation trips. After a while, he was contacted by Stride Gum and was asked to travel around the world to do his dance. What a lucky guy. These videos are cool.

What I like in the videos are the very amazing places and scenic views. Just by watching the videos, I already picked out a few places I want to visit.

Matt says that even though he is not fluent in many languages, he was able to communicate with the people just with his dance. This is just to show that even though we are so different and so fart apart, we can still get together and share joy.

Dancing 2008

Dancing 2006

Where the hell is Matt?

Art, Wine, and Beautiful Things

Play Music Video and Read

I’ve come to enjoy Art, sip on Wine, and listen to Beautiful Things. The funny thing is that only a year ago, art was not in my interest and wine was not even in my selection for beverage. Beautiful Things (the song) belongs to a genre (Techno) I’ve always liked, so I am naturally attracted to that song. But experiences and exposure to art and wine have changed my preferences a bit. For example, I may now prefer a dinner and an intellectual conversation accompanied with wine- not the usual imported beer. Or I may now prefer to know about the history of a painting rather than glancing and skipping without appreciation.

Some things you learn from natural attraction and others you learn from introduction, exposure and interest. It was only a year ago when I met a person who thought me that life is to be lived day by day. It is this same person who thought me to grow the appreciation for art and enjoy the pleasure of wine. I’m thankful to have met and maintained a friendship with this individual, even if it was for a short period of time, because I learned so much and helped me open my mind a little more. It was a natural connection with my personality. I was in the moment. I was willing.

It is very true that some of the best things in life are those which we never thought or even considered them to come. They are life’s beautiful surprises, which I’ve now decided to call Beautiful Things. I am so glad I opened my mind, my heart, and my emotions because if I had not, I would not have been the same.

This person did not only expose me to Beautiful Things, but I also found a great deal of inspiration. Although young, the experience and thoughtfulness of this individual astounded me. This is when I realized that wisdom is attained not only by those who are a lot older in age, but also by those who have gone through a great deal of experiences and have been literary exposed to many places around the world. Although we no longer have much communication, I know this person will go far in life, succeed, and continue to inspire other people.

I am thankful not only because I met this person, but also because I was able to enjoy it to the fullest. I know that many people go through a lifetime without having to experience neither inspiration nor this type of emotional experience. This is when I like to say that “for a moment like this, some people wait a lifetime.” (Just got the chills)

Even if I don’t tell, I am thankful to have met an individual who has opened my eyes in many ways.

Now, I continue to appreciate Art, while sipping on Wine and listen to Beautiful Things. Readily, I’ll continue to surround myself with people who inspire and motivate and take in any knowledge I can.

Reality is that it’s not about the art. It’s not about the wine. It’s about the moments and the inspiration that takes my breath away. Carpe Diem.

Art, Wine, and Beautiful Things

Let It Go

Some people write to remember and others write to forget.

Somebody once told me that if I ever wanted to finally let go of memories and experiences, I should write about them, letting my subconscious mind and heart speak. In this way, my heart can be healed and/or forget with satisfaction.

I am no expert on human behavior nor can say, exactly, why sometimes it’s hard to let go of experiences. My theory is that when humans go through impacting or somehow life changing experiences, those experiences are retained by the heart and stored in the brain. Every so often, the subconscious mind injects that experience into our conscious mind and that is how many memories are still alive. Depending on the person’s memory span, with time, that experience will fade away. This is why many people say that time is the only cure.

But what if we don’t want to give it time? How can we take control of our conscious and subconscious mind to finally forget? Taking control of the subconscious mind takes a lot of discipline, but it is very possible. A way to do this is to concentrate all the thought energy into preferred thoughts until it becomes a habit. By creating habit of thought, the subconscious mind will automatically repeat the process that you trained it to do. Before you know it, that memory or experience that you initially wanted to forget, will tend to appear less and less.

But why would one want let go of experiences? Experiences and memories that are live in our mind have the power to manipulate our emotions. It is most likely that those emotions bring some type of sadness or depression, therefore, making life miserable. Note that people want to forget the experiences because it has a strong manipulation of emotions. When people forget the memories, it’s not that they forgot about the experience, but they forgot about the emotional manipulation.

Some people are strong enough to take control of their mind and emotions, but others are so emotionally distorted that they just can’t fight it. It is these people that are so emotionally hurt that, maybe, just maybe, time will heal.

Don’t go through life hoping that it goes away. Take control of mind and emotions and let it go.

Let It Go

Why do I want to get married?

This is a nice and thoughtful conversation I had with a cool friend (Magdalena). This may or may not help you expand your thinking about the reasons why people get married. You may also find out about why I decided to get engaged.

Engaged…Congratulations.

I have a question, if you don’t mind me askin’. I’m of a curious nature and inquisitive one too. Why do you want to get married?

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I don’t blame you for your curiosity cus I’m the same way. honestly, I asked my self that question right after I proposed. I was questioning myself because all I would hear from friends is ‘you sure you wanna do this’ or ‘don’t do it’… but then I think about my past, present and future. My past is that I’ve been with this girl for 6 years and she has not failed me once – that i know of. We’ve gone through lots of sad moments but even more happy moments. I think about my present and I’m still happy with her. She still makes me happy [and I love her]… I think about my future and I know that I want to be successful personally, emotionally, and financially. We share the same goals, so why not going for it together.



do you have something you wanna share with me?

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I ask because I am curious to hear the different reasons why someone might think it’s “time” for them, or “the right moment”. My brother married his ex for insurance reasons and because they had been together for 10 years, so they thought, “why not?” ….I ask others…and they have stories all across the board. A close friend of mine proposed by accident. Can you believe that? Insane. Another older gentleman said, “because she puts up with my shit”, now that’s romantic. But then there are other stories that I hear, that touch your heart, and give you hope that people really do respect the commitment and the vows they make to each other….I ask some couples who have been married for many many years how they feel about each other, and it’s so sweet to see how in love they still are with each other after so many years. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not opposed to it. I think it’s beautiful, if you do it for the right reasons.



Me, personally… I never want to get married. If someone wants to be with me..then they will be with me, and that’s all that matters. =)

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Relationships are sometimes so damn hard. It is funny how people last many years of dating, but when they get married, they don’t last a year. Or how some other people are in a very long term relationship and one day one of them realizes that there are no more feelings. I do believe that after a certain point, relationships have to move into the next level (engagement, or move in together to start a family) or love magically vanishes… Nowadays, it is hard to believe a couple will have a life lasting marriage. It has become so easy for people to get divorced that people rather divorce than work on the problems. But some of us still have that hope that our marriage will be for a lifetime.







Yes, some guys get married for the wrong reasons and that is why many of them are destined to failure.



Perhaps now you think that you don’t want to get married but when the right guy comes and he wants to get married, you will definitely change your thinking. Marriage is also good if you want to have legal rights over property or to make legal decisions… marriage also helps when you file for taxes:)

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You’re right. Those different levels are like a stairwell. Each step takes you higher and higher…and then what? I think it keeps going…only if the two individuals are willing to put in the work and constantly feed the relationship with new ideas at the same time re-visiting that thing that bonded you together, reminding you why you love that one person. Trouble comes when one person decides to get lazy….and leave the other person with all the burden of keeping it alive….



You hit the nail on the head with the “benefits” of marriage. The long lasting benefits should never be tangible. They should be felt. Society has cornered us into this marriage contract in order to keep the benefits of a financial tax break or rights to property. Why? Because if that was your life long love, and you had no heir and marriage was the determining factor of who was the beneficiary….who would benefit from your property if you weren’t married? Who could possibly stick their hand in the cookie jar? THE FUCKING GOVRERNMENT! So yeah let’s make that a rule…. if the asshole isn’t married we can take his estate….I guess I don’t want anyone sticking their hand in my cookie jar….not the government and not a man with gold digging finger.



If he wants to be with me…he will be with me no matter what.

Why do I want to get married?

Just Engaged

Yes! I finally did it! After six and a half years of dating, breaking up, happiness, arguments and make-ups, we are moving forward. I just thought it was the best thing to do since we are both still fresh out of college and ready to beat any obstacle the world might give us… and what can be better than doing it together!

I always thought I would go to college, create a great career, buy a house and then get married. But then i realized that why should I go through all this alone when I have somebody great to share it with.

It was a scary thing! It still is! I mean, getting engaged is knowing that decisions are not going to be based just on me, but us. It’s knowing that now I can not go out with friends without giving notice, but now I gotta get used to letting her know where I am going – not really asking for permission, yet!

My thoughts about getting engaged became a little more serious right before my college graduation was getting closer. It was then when I began to think about where I’m going to start my successful career. You see, I didn’t want to go to a place that was too far from her because I can not do a long distance relationship… It’s just not for me. Knowing that she had already signed a contract with a prestigious firm at the Bay Area, I realized that the best thing would be for us both to move to the bay a start a new life – together. I saw it as, we either move forward, move in together or we end the relationship and head our different ways.

I made up my mind, I proposed and she accepted. A great future is ahead of us.

Just Engaged