AMBITION is not related to GREED

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Every time I mention AMBITION people automatically relate it to GREED or MONEY. That seems to be a popular misconception, but it has absolutely nothing to do with GREED or MONEY. A lot of people know that money is just a result. AMBITION has to do with PURPOSE.

Chances are, if you wake up in the morning and go to work/school, you have AMBITION. If you play sports or are into fitness, you have AMBITION. If you want to become better and succeed at something YOU ARE AMBITIOUS.

am·bi·tion
noun
a strong desire to do or to achieve something, typically requiring determination and hard work.

AMBITION is not related to GREED

5 Steps to Make a Memorable First Impression

Let’s face it – every time we meet someone the first thing we do is a visual profile. Whether we realize it or not, we do a glance of what they are wearing, their hygiene, perhaps their hair / haircut. Before the person even says a word, we already have an idea on our minds of wether we will like this person or not.

For this reason, when you want to make a memorable first impression, it is very important to be on top of your game, not just on the way you speak, but the way you dress.

For too many men, dressing well is a quality they feel they don’t need and it’s not important. They think people should like them for who they truly are, and they shouldn’t try to impress anyone. Most likely, these are the people with zero ambition, play video games, watch every fucking football game, and eat cold pizza with their roommates.

If you really want to make a memorable first impression, be ready to follow these 5 steps:

1) Dress Well
Just like I mentioned in the intro, dressing well is one of the most important, if not the most important steps of all. You must dress well, because the way you speak is not the first thing people see. Dressing well, especially as a male, is what separates you from the crowd. What do we assume about people that stand out? We assume that they are important. Good things come from dressing well, period.

2) Formal Greeting
When you meet someone, make eye contact and have a firm handshake. This shows respect and professionalism. Nowadays, many people greet someone by raising their head. I can go on by trying to explain why that isn’t okay, but I hope everyone can figure it out on their own.

3) Etiquette
Be respectful and have good manners. A lot of this involves putting other peoples needs first.

4) Non-verval communication
Your non-verbal communication is what will speak louder. Always deliver yourself with confidence. Be mindful of how you stand, sit, and move your hands. People will pick up your non-verbal communications and make a final judgement on you. One of the best non-verbal things you can do is smile.

5) Keep them wanting more
When you leave the room, you want other people to want more of you. Add some uniqueness in your style or delivery that will set you apart. When you speak, say enough, but never more.

5 Steps to Make a Memorable First Impression

Changing Tactics for Social Impact

You don’t know how many times I ask myself what is my purpose of having and spending time on my social accounts. Most of us use it as a distraction, to see what other people are doing, follow some celebs, and find interesting stuff. It’s an personal escape via social media.

But I’ve always tried to find another purpose other than just an escape. In fact, I try to avoid using social media as a distraction because it is in fact a big distraction – and it gets addicting. I try to use my social accounts to provide some type of value, by sharing some of my knowledge and experiences, some quotes and interesting stuff.

Today I had a discussion with someone on the way I deliver my messages and posts. Even though the intention of the message is to promote positivity and inspiration, many people can take it wrong because I’m telling them what they don’t want to hear.

Everyone speaks of making the best out of life, but many never leave their comfort zone to find the extraordinary

In the quote above, my intention is to motivate people to get out of their comfort zone and create new or out of the ordinary experiences. But it can be taken wrong because I told people what they don’t want to hear. We all speak of making the best out of life, yes. But nobody wants to be reminded how they suck because we decide to stay in our comfort zone – and people can get offended.

Some of my messages, al though with good intention, are telling people what they should or shouldn’t do. My thought is that people get offended by my posts because I am just talking on a level of success – when most of us connect mainly on the struggles.

Reality is that I’m not looking to please everyone, I’m not looking to change my thinking, but I know I should be more aware of who is reading my message and word it in a way that is understood by those who I want to target. Pay closer attention to my audience.

For a long time, all I have been personally following or listening on social media is people who have achieved the level of success that I want. These people are very, very direct and they don’t tell people the nice things people want to hear, they tell what will get shit done. “Oh you are scared to start your own business? Stop being a little bitch, and make it happen.”, “Oh you haven’t reached the salary you want? Why are you not putting in the extra time to make it happen?”. That shit works for me, and motivates me to get moving, and it motivates thousands of entrepreneurs. We don’t need empathy, we need the reality.

Listening to all those entrepreneurs, business owners, and motivators has helped me a lot. But in a way, it has also screwed up my thinking on how to deal with normal people. When I try to deliver positive messages, sometimes I say “why aren’t doing this?” or “you need to do this”. My thinking is, “Okay there is a problem, and here is the solution”. But normal people don’t like that shit, they hate it because most of us hate being told what to do.

From today forward, I am going to work on changing my tactics for a greater positive social impact. I’m going to pay attention to who my audience is, which consists mostly of people who don’t own a business, people who want to do better in live, but may not be at a level of motivation or ambition that I am. It’s all about how I deliver the message. It’s about not just providing solutions, but also having empathy. It’s not about just showing success, it’s about showing struggles – which many of us have. That is how people will connect with me.

Today I was told: “Just tell people what they want to hear.” It clicked. I got it. All this time I’ve been telling people what I thought they should hear.

Changing Tactics for Social Impact

Do it while you’re excited

Some of my experiences have reminded me that the best time to do something is exactly when you feel it. It’s not when you think you can come up with a perfect moment, it’s not when the circumstances can be more convenient. It is when you get the idea, when you feel excitement in your gut just thinking about it. Because great memories don’t always come by waiting for the perfect moment, it’s making the moment perfect.

Do it while you’re excited

Giving Back

This world is full of good people, if you cant find one, be one

It doesn’t matter where we are at in life, if we can afford a smartphone, there is no reason not to extend a hand to the less fortunate. Once we reach the point where we can take care of our own, giving back is a duty, responsibility and obligation. No exceptions.

Giving Back

The Top 5 Regrets of The Dying

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I found an article online and I thought it was interesting. A nurse recorded the most common regrets of the dying and put her findings into a book called ‘The Top Five Regrets of The Dying.’ Below is the list of each regret.

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

“This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it.”

For a long time, I’ve lived my life in a way that I have no regrets or missed experiences (Carpe Diem). I hope that the people that know me remember me as a person that did what he wanted, when he wanted.

2. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.

“This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship. Women also spoke of this regret, but as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.”

We’ll I don’t know what to say about this one, I’m naturally guilty -it’s in my personality to be ambitious. Perhaps it’s due to my humble beginnings, I do work hard and that will not change. We grew up with limited means, and seeing my single mother work multiple jobs, and ask for loans just to pay rent had a big effect on me. Money is important, and it don’t ever want to be a problem. I don’t have to be rich, but I must live comfortably.

Nonetheless, I do want to spend more time with my family (2 Week Notice ), and I use my family as a reason to work hard. I believe that if I manage to be financially free, I will spend more quality time with my family.

3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.

“Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming.”

All I can say about this one is I don’t have many friends because I can’t stand the bullshit. But you know, it’s not about quantity, it’s about quality.

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

“Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved.”

Ha! I always tell the people that get married, don’t forget about your friends. It seems people get married and they, for whatever reason, think that they can’t have friends anymore. Like your social life is supposed to end all of the sudden. I want my wife to have a social life, and I definitely need some social time with the friends that I have. I value my friendships, and I treat them like family.

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

“Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called ‘comfort’ of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content, when deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again.”

I am a very happy person, however some of my ambitions sometimes bring disappointments. I don’t see these moments as a bad thing, it is a good moment for reflection. I do have to work on letting the past go and keep moving forward.

Source: http://www.collective-evolution.com

The Top 5 Regrets of The Dying

My mission as a father

Before the arrival of my first child I began to wonder what my mission as a father is. I never had the guidance from my father, so I never had an example to go by, but it does give me the ability to start something new – without others’ expectations or biased opinions.

Many questions came to mind when I began to think about how to be great parent: Should I be a strict or a lenient? Should I give lots of love or limit the emotions? Should I spoil and give them everything I never had? How can I teach my child respect? How can I teach them courage?

As time passed, I kept thinking about two things seemed meaningless at the time, but got stuck in my mind.

The first is a conversation I had a while back. I was told that Angels incarnate into the human body, and before they come into this world, they get to see the life of the parents, and their own life as humans. Angels have the ability to choose the life they want to live and who they want as parents. When an Angel incarnates to come into this world, there is no recognition of life as an Angel, as the body now has a soul. Furthermore, our job as parents is to deliver the baby into this world, we do not get to decide how the child will live.

The second was a National Geographic documentary on cheetahs that I watched while I was in Jamaica. The documentary covered the relationship between the mom and the baby cheetahs (male cheetahs are not monogamous, they are not in the picture). What I found interesting in this documentary was how the mom protects the baby cheetahs until they can get around on their own, but most importantly, the mom teaches survival. This includes the ability to act as predator and protect when they are being prey. Once the mom sees that her offsprings can survive on their own, she calmly walks away. The cheetah knows that her offsprings now know survival and they are able to live on their own. She is no longer needed.

It may seem weird, but with these to stories, I am able to find my mission as a father.

I have realized that my mission as a father is to teach my children survival. I must enable them and teach them to live on their own. Till the time they can think and take care of themselves, I must teach them decision making and consequences, respect, responsibility, hate, love, deception, risk, financial literacy, importance of education, healthy living, and other areas that I find important to live in the world today. Most important is survival. I must enable them how to protect themselves as prey, and how to be predator. The sooner, the better.

My mission as a father is not spoil my children with unnecessary material wishes, but to do my best to enable them with knowledge and skill so that one day they are able to obtain anything they want on their own.

This is what I believe in. This is my mission as a father.

My mission as a father

My fears right now

The fear I have now is settling for average.
The fear of thinking that it is okay to give it less than 100% on things that are important to me.
The fear of making a choice and not making the best of it.
The fear of doing something not because I want to but just because other people are doing it.
The fear of letting criticism get to me.
The fear that I’ll change who I am just to make other people happy.
The fear of not feeling accomplished.
The fear that I won’t trust myself.
The fear that I won’t do something because of the fear to fail.

With all these fears, I take life day by day as if I was fearless.

My fears right now

Why I Don’t Watch TV

I cancelled my cable TV recently. On average I turn on the TV for about 1-2 hour a week, and it’s not worth paying $30-$40/month on something I hardly ever use. The few times that I turn on the TV is to watch a recorded show or a movie/documentary online.

The reason I got cable TV in the first place was because I had visitors staying at my house for a few weeks and it would make me a really bad host if I didn’t provide the visitors any time of entertainment.

Every time I meet up with a friend or at work talking to my colleagues and the topic of TV shows come up, I mention it clearly: Don’t ask me about TV shows or sports, I don’t watch TV much. It’s actually amusing seeing their reaction as they ask, “well what do you do?” It’s hard for me to grasp that question. Sometimes I feel bad (at times upset) because they think everything they see on TV is real.

One example is my sister. At times I would visit her and I would see that she was watching Jersey Shore or Keeping up with the Kardashians. OMG out of everything, I hated those two shows the most. I would argue with her a bit, telling her not to waste her time watching that bullshit, but I tried not to insist. Reality is, some people understand the reasons, others do not.

Some people find the pleasure on sitting for hours on end in front of a TV, and if that’s what makes them happy, then it’s okay. I decide to spend my time on activities that are more productive and make me happy. Don’t get me wrong, every now and then I do like to unwind by drinking a glass of wine and watch a movie. Or during designated cuddle time he he :)

What do I do with my time? I wish I had enough time to do many things, but I can only do a few. I do the following the most:

– Work – I rather not work and be at the beach, but I was not born a billionaire

– Write – It helps me with gathering ideas and expression

– Listen to music – It inspires me

– Home chores – I think this necessity is a waste of time, I wish I didn’t have to, I’m seriously considering hiring a maid

– Read a book – Learn interesting things

– Gym – It releases stress, boosts testosterone, and keeps me healthy and looking good

– Eat – This chico right here gotta eat, baby

– Converse – So how was your day?

– Visit family – Hi, Mom

– Salsa classes – I like dirty dancing

– Intimacy – :)

– Social life – Japanese food, cigars, whiskey

Why I Don’t Watch TV