Can we beat procrastination?

pro·cras·ti·na·tion

/prəˌkrastəˈnāSH(ə)n/
noun
the action of delaying or postponing something.

Before anything, I want to say that I’m no expert on the topic of procrastination since I have procrastinated in many things this week already (It’s only Wednesday), including writing this post. But even with all my years of experience, hard work, and trying new things to beat procrastination, I ask myself: Is it possible to beat procrastination for good?

After all my successes and failures when dealing with procrastination, I’ve come to the conclusion that it is not possible to eliminate it, especially if you are always working on new things, and are a constant target for distractions. When I say distractions, I don’t mean social media / YouTube type of distractions I mean people calling or needing your immediate assistance for work / family related decisions.

The good news is that we can manage procrastination, that is, consciously know what we will procrastinate on.

For example, most of us adults know that we can procrastinate on buying a gift for a relative, but we can not procrastinate on paying the bills (It’s just not a good idea). Think for yourself, how many times have you gone to a birthday party, a wedding, or special event, but not before making a quick stop at the store to buy a gift? How many times do you wait to do something around the house, each times saying “Ah, I’ll do it later”, until it comes to the day that you got no other choice but to get it done? I do that all the time LOL

But you see, the awesome thing about procrastinating on those type of things is that the risk of procrastinating does not affect us much. The risk may be someone nagging, but it’s no big deal. As opposed to being late on bills – sometimes that comes with an extra fee! That one does hurt :P

Have you ever heard of the popular proverb, “if you can’t beat them, join them“? That is what I intend to do.

Now that I’ve convinced myself that it’s pointless to try to beat procrastination, I decided to make procrastination my friend. In other words, I need to master procrastination.

The big question is how do I decide what I can and can not procrastinate on?

The answer is this: Measure Risk vs Reward

What are we risking when we procrastinate on a specific task, and what is the reward if we do not procrastinate?

This is something only each person can answer on their own, primarily because each of us know what is more important for us.

On Monday I created a list of 24 tasks that I need to get done ASAP. Today, Wednesday, I have 25 tasks on that list. It’s not that I haven’t completed items from that list, I have completed 4. But it also happened that 5 new items were added, some of which have higher risk if I decide to procrastinate on. With that said, I’m going to measure risk vs reward for each item to decide what I will procrastinate on.

If we leave it till the last minute, it only takes a minute

Can we beat procrastination?

5 Steps to Make a Memorable First Impression

Let’s face it – every time we meet someone the first thing we do is a visual profile. Whether we realize it or not, we do a glance of what they are wearing, their hygiene, perhaps their hair / haircut. Before the person even says a word, we already have an idea on our minds of wether we will like this person or not.

For this reason, when you want to make a memorable first impression, it is very important to be on top of your game, not just on the way you speak, but the way you dress.

For too many men, dressing well is a quality they feel they don’t need and it’s not important. They think people should like them for who they truly are, and they shouldn’t try to impress anyone. Most likely, these are the people with zero ambition, play video games, watch every fucking football game, and eat cold pizza with their roommates.

If you really want to make a memorable first impression, be ready to follow these 5 steps:

1) Dress Well
Just like I mentioned in the intro, dressing well is one of the most important, if not the most important steps of all. You must dress well, because the way you speak is not the first thing people see. Dressing well, especially as a male, is what separates you from the crowd. What do we assume about people that stand out? We assume that they are important. Good things come from dressing well, period.

2) Formal Greeting
When you meet someone, make eye contact and have a firm handshake. This shows respect and professionalism. Nowadays, many people greet someone by raising their head. I can go on by trying to explain why that isn’t okay, but I hope everyone can figure it out on their own.

3) Etiquette
Be respectful and have good manners. A lot of this involves putting other peoples needs first.

4) Non-verval communication
Your non-verbal communication is what will speak louder. Always deliver yourself with confidence. Be mindful of how you stand, sit, and move your hands. People will pick up your non-verbal communications and make a final judgement on you. One of the best non-verbal things you can do is smile.

5) Keep them wanting more
When you leave the room, you want other people to want more of you. Add some uniqueness in your style or delivery that will set you apart. When you speak, say enough, but never more.

5 Steps to Make a Memorable First Impression

How to raise above the noise and stay focused

Sometimes it seems like when we figure about something we really want to do in life, there are always other distractions that pull us away or make it close to impossible to get it done. What is worse is that we end up making decisions during a stressed or pressured state, that we end up doing what we didn’t want to do. I’m sure this has (or will ) happened to everyone.

Everyone wants your attention and everyone is telling you what to do – Your mom, your dad, your teacher, your priest, your friends, or some guy on television telling you how to do your shit.

In order to raise above the noise and stay focused, all you have to do is follow this 3 step plan:

1) Remind yourself of why you are doing it
When you need to do something that requires a lot of time from you, write down the purpose. It is important that you find clarity of what you want so you can act with intention. What will you settle with and not settle with? Then read it out loud, every morning.

2) Surround yourself with the right environment
You are the average of the 5 people you spend your most time with – if you want to change your mindset, find friends that have the mindset you want. If you want to go to the gym, fill up your closet with gym clothes and a pair of athletic shoes. If you want to earn more money, read and follow the people that make lots of money in your profession.

3) Step out of your comfort zone
Try doing things that scare you, things that excite you. Get used to handling tough situations and rejections.

All these 3 steps must be practiced to rise above the noise and stay focused.

If you are not willing to do ALL OF THESE, don’t even bother chasing your goals – might as well go to bed or sit in the couch and watch TV. #classdismissed

How to raise above the noise and stay focused

Dreams vs Goals

I can understand how there is some confusing between dreams and goals, some people use them interchangeably, but the fact is these do not mean the same thing. Knowing the difference between a dream and goal can make the difference between making your desires a reality or not. I repeat, knowing the difference between your dreams and goals, can make the difference between making your desires a reality or not.

Dreams vs Goals: A goal is a dream with a plan
Dreams vs Goals: A goal is a dream with a plan

Dreams are generally descriptions of where we see ourselves in the far future, and there may be some doubts and uncertainties inside us of wether it can be a reality or not.

Goals are plans that describe things we want to do in the short term, we have already convinced ourselves that it’s possible, and most importantly, goals have a deadline.

Another way I can describe it is that dreams are purpose driven, we all have dreams because it grows out of a purpose from somewhere inside ourselves. Goals are action driven, our actions will take us closer towards our goals.

Both dreams and goals are very important to me, and I try as much as possible to make my goals work towards a dream.

If you have a strong desire to make your dreams a reality, focus on coming up with goals that work toward that dream. Otherwise, you will become one of those dedicated dreamers that all they do is dream and never get anywhere. #classdismissed

Dreams vs Goals