A Gift For You

Occasionally destiny puts opportunities in front of us, they are gifts. Most don’t know how to react to it as they think they’ve done nothing to deserve it. Because why would destiny, or even a stranger, give something without asking for something else in return? Many walk away, and ignore the gift – back to what is comfortable and normal. And they will forever look at other people’s fortunes, wishing and hoping they had the same luck.

Those that do take the opportunities and gifts that life brings them, will continue to evolve, reaching places never imagined, and live the life of their dreams. They have discovered that good things can happen when you take the opportunities and gifts that were placed in front of you, for you.

Accept the opportunities and gifts given to you, and don’t spend too much energy trying to understand them. Perhaps it’s because of something you did in the past life. Perhaps it’s because of something you will do in the next.

A Gift For You

The World Won’t Get Any Better

How is it possible that the US is willing to spend trillions of dollars on wars, and billions to aid other countries when we still have poverty and homelessness in America?

If you think about it on simple terms, it makes no sense.

If you think about it more in depth, this time considering politics, manipulation of the masses, greed, and power – the answer is not so simple.

The system is designed that way, and that is how it will stay. The government is not going to do anything to change that. Period.

Perhaps there is a possibility of the world getting better if people unite to make a change.

However, what I realized these last several weeks is that people want change, but most are not willing to sacrifice their time and money to change it. People want change, but only as long as the process doesn’t make them uncomfortable. At the end of the day, we are all selfish and we like to stay in what is already familiar to us, including the state of the world that we live in. Because why give up the comfort and little bit of peace we have now, when we can go Black Friday shopping and fight each other to save a few bucks for shit we don’t need on the evening of Thanksgiving.

The world is not going to get any better, and I say that without being a pessimist, but considering current facts, and the history of humanity.

Once you comprehend politics, power, and greed, you understand this:

“War, crime and racism has always and will always exists in this country so don’t worry too much about changing the world, but do always worry about changing your own.”

God Bless America.

#PrayForSirya #PrayForParis #PrayForTheWorld

The World Won’t Get Any Better

Why do people waste so much time on nonsense?

I was having a conversation last night and a question came up.

Why do people waste so much time?

Like watching nonsense reality TV shows. Working at a job they hate. Maintaining relationships that add no value. etc.

My take is that people waste so much time on activities or with people that add absolutely no value because they think they will live a long life. In other words, they believe there’s plenty of time in their life.

Can you imagine how different we would live our lives if we knew how much time we had in our life? Let me ask the question:

If you knew how much time you have left in this life, would you:

Have more urgency in the things you want to do?
Be willing to take more risk?
Would you still let fear stop you from doing what you’ve always wanted?
Spend more time on making yourself happy instead of trying to please other people (who may or may not appreciate it)?
Would the problems you have now still seem as big?

Would you spend it watching fake-reality shows on TV?
Would you keep spending time with relationships that add no value?
Would you still show up at the job you so much hate?
Would you still care of people’s opinions?

Sometimes I think of a family friend who I was able to spend some time with. Her name is Whitny M. and she past away 3 years ago due to terminal cancer. She was a young (early 30’s) mother of 2 young boys. By far, she was one of the most happiest persons I have ever met with a contagious laughter. I remember how much she loved life and how much she didn’t want to go. A very strong woman who gave it her all so she could be with her boys. I learned something from Whitny, and that is to live my life now because tomorrow is promised to no one.

Every night I am thankful for being able to live and complete another day. Every morning I promise myself to do everything that makes me happy – because I am thankful.

This reminded me of a post I wrote two years ago, I Will Die Soon.

Why do people waste so much time on nonsense?

Rehearsing Situations

Have you ever rehearsed situations or had full conversations with yourself imagining you are talking to someone else? Sometimes I do that, every time I think I’m crazy and / or it’s a waste of time because I don’t know if it’s ever going to happen.

For the times that it does happen, no matter how many times I practiced, more often than not, it all comes out wrong.

It’s mainly because how I felt in a calm state gets overpowered by the mix of emotions once I’m dealing with the real thing. The good thing is that the outcome does end up being the same, however, the way it goes down is never how I imagine it.

Rehearsing Situations

Can we beat procrastination?

pro·cras·ti·na·tion

/prəˌkrastəˈnāSH(ə)n/
noun
the action of delaying or postponing something.

Before anything, I want to say that I’m no expert on the topic of procrastination since I have procrastinated in many things this week already (It’s only Wednesday), including writing this post. But even with all my years of experience, hard work, and trying new things to beat procrastination, I ask myself: Is it possible to beat procrastination for good?

After all my successes and failures when dealing with procrastination, I’ve come to the conclusion that it is not possible to eliminate it, especially if you are always working on new things, and are a constant target for distractions. When I say distractions, I don’t mean social media / YouTube type of distractions I mean people calling or needing your immediate assistance for work / family related decisions.

The good news is that we can manage procrastination, that is, consciously know what we will procrastinate on.

For example, most of us adults know that we can procrastinate on buying a gift for a relative, but we can not procrastinate on paying the bills (It’s just not a good idea). Think for yourself, how many times have you gone to a birthday party, a wedding, or special event, but not before making a quick stop at the store to buy a gift? How many times do you wait to do something around the house, each times saying “Ah, I’ll do it later”, until it comes to the day that you got no other choice but to get it done? I do that all the time LOL

But you see, the awesome thing about procrastinating on those type of things is that the risk of procrastinating does not affect us much. The risk may be someone nagging, but it’s no big deal. As opposed to being late on bills – sometimes that comes with an extra fee! That one does hurt :P

Have you ever heard of the popular proverb, “if you can’t beat them, join them“? That is what I intend to do.

Now that I’ve convinced myself that it’s pointless to try to beat procrastination, I decided to make procrastination my friend. In other words, I need to master procrastination.

The big question is how do I decide what I can and can not procrastinate on?

The answer is this: Measure Risk vs Reward

What are we risking when we procrastinate on a specific task, and what is the reward if we do not procrastinate?

This is something only each person can answer on their own, primarily because each of us know what is more important for us.

On Monday I created a list of 24 tasks that I need to get done ASAP. Today, Wednesday, I have 25 tasks on that list. It’s not that I haven’t completed items from that list, I have completed 4. But it also happened that 5 new items were added, some of which have higher risk if I decide to procrastinate on. With that said, I’m going to measure risk vs reward for each item to decide what I will procrastinate on.

If we leave it till the last minute, it only takes a minute

Can we beat procrastination?

I want it all

Live Life
People often say “you can’t have it all”. I don’t meant to come off selfish, but I want it all. What’s crazy is that I truly believe I can have it all, just maybe not at the same time.

The simple thought that I can have it all is what keeps me motivated, and that is what keeps things exciting. It’s not necessarily the thought that I can have all these material wishes – at the end of the day, that’s not much important. What’s important to me is realizing that I can accomplish anything I set my mind to.

I like to live a life where I have little to no virtual restrictions. That’s exciting :)

Live your life and have fun with it.

I want it all

Teach My Heart Something It Doesn’t Know

True love? I’ve felt it.
Happiness? I have.
Excitement? That too.

What can you show me? Perhaps something I already don’t know.

Sadness? Sometimes.
Missing someone? I have.
Hate? That too.
Heart ache? A few times.

Are you capable? Is it in you?

Fear? Don’t want it.
Lust? It’s crazy.

What can you teach my heart? Teach it something it doesn’t know.

What can you show me? Teach it before I learn it on my own.
I’m self-taught, I don’t wait around
There’s something you know, and I’ve never learned

You’re qualified, teach my heart something it doesn’t know

– AMJ

Inspired by The Weeknd Losers

Teach My Heart Something It Doesn’t Know

Living the NOW

I’ve posted about living the moment several times, each based on a recent life experience or something that I saw. The most recent post being Do it while you’re excited, and I wrote it because I was reminded not wait to see if a “perfect” moment comes along – do things when the excitement is there.

Today, thinking about recent experiences, I’m once again glad I live in the moment and in the NOW. So many good things and experiences have come from taking the opportunities that God puts in front of me, I’m glad I don’t hesitate much when making choices for opportunities I don’t get everyday and with lots of unknowns.

Most people always dwell on their past or worry too much about their future. The old shit, we just have to learn from it and let go. The future, we can always try to plan it and hope for it, but it’s guaranteed to no one. Thinking too much about the future will only make you miss the opportunities you have NOW. Even those opportunities that come only once in a life time.

I was jut reminded of a book I look forward to reading soon: The Power of Now.

Living the NOW

I got a big (eheheh)… ego

Coulda let the dream killers, kill my self esteem
Or use the arrogance as a steam that power my dreams
And my ego – Kanye (Ego Remix)

I heard the Ego Remix song today and also read an article on confidence. It got me thinking…

Sometimes we get criticized for having a big ego, but why the fuck should we think less of ourselves? Like if we don’t deserve what we work for. Like if our ego doesn’t build on our confidence even after every failure.

Never feel bad or inappropriate for having a big ego or confidence. Average minds will criticize your ego and confidence while the successful will look at you and smile – because they know that is part of what it takes to keep on improving.

This does not mean it’s okay to think less of other people. You should use your ego and confidence in a way that lifts you up, but never to put other people down.

“Some call it arrogant, I call it confidence” – Beyonce

I got a big (eheheh)… ego