Living the NOW

I’ve posted about living the moment several times, each based on a recent life experience or something that I saw. The most recent post being Do it while you’re excited, and I wrote it because I was reminded not wait to see if a “perfect” moment comes along – do things when the excitement is there.

Today, thinking about recent experiences, I’m once again glad I live in the moment and in the NOW. So many good things and experiences have come from taking the opportunities that God puts in front of me, I’m glad I don’t hesitate much when making choices for opportunities I don’t get everyday and with lots of unknowns.

Most people always dwell on their past or worry too much about their future. The old shit, we just have to learn from it and let go. The future, we can always try to plan it and hope for it, but it’s guaranteed to no one. Thinking too much about the future will only make you miss the opportunities you have NOW. Even those opportunities that come only once in a life time.

I was jut reminded of a book I look forward to reading soon: The Power of Now.

Living the NOW

I Will Become a Modern Gentleman

I’ll be the first to admit, I’m not the best on being a gentleman. Rarely do I open the car’s door for my female companion, I have the bad habbit of cutting the entire steak into bite size pieces before I begin eating, I use my smart phone in social places, and if I’m having a good time, I don’t watch my drinking when out in public. I’m often direct, and “Fuck it” is a highly used phrase in my vocabulary.

However, I’d like to think I have a few gentleman qualities, such as dressing well, I enjoy fine foods and drinks, I love to dance, enjoy theatre, listen to various types of music, and I can be very friendly. I am also aware of many of the gentleman traits, even if I don’t practice them. That’s a good start, I guess.

Good news is, today I decided I will become a modern gentleman. I bought the How to Be a Gentleman book, it has good reviews so I hope to learn a few things.

Not only did I purchase the book, but I also got a pair of tickets for the Giuseppe Verdi IL Trovatore opera show, and will enjoy a glass of champagne.

At least you know, I am trying ;)

Modern Gentleman

I Will Become a Modern Gentleman

13 Fundamental skills to be successful

I’m currently listening to the audiobook, How to Fail at Almost Everything and Still Win Big By Scott Adams, a book that gives a different prospective on goals and what it takes to be successful.

As I’m listening for the first time, I’m taking mental notes and digesting the interesting topics Scott Adams covers.

What recently got my attention is his list of fundamental skills that can help people become successful. He believes in the idea that when it comes to skills, quantity over quality is preferred – instead of mastering a few skills, you can just learn the basics of many. I do not intend to go into this topic, but I agree to a certain extend.

As he recited the list, I realized it has some of the skills I plan to work on during my leisure time. I think I will add all of these to my leisure time goals list.

Fundamental skills:

Accounting – You don’t have to be a business owner for this. We all work for money, we should all understand what’s coming in and out of our accounts, interest rates, etc.

Psychology – Understand people and make them understand you.

Basic design – Have an eye for design. ¬†Know what looks good and what doesn’t.

Second language – A second language that makes sense. If you live in California, it makes sense to know both English and Spanish.

Persuasion – A powerful asset that must be used wisely.

Proper grammar – Your / You’re, I / Me, Were / Was. Know the difference.

Business writing – Be professional and to the point.

Public speaking – I can’t stress how important this is for a business owner and I definitely need a lot of work on this.

Conversation – Be able to maintain a conversation and connect with strangers. This is how networking is done.

Overcoming shyness – Sitting in a corner is not going to take you far.

Golf – Not a place to talk business, but a place for men to bond.

Technology hobby level – Know how to use a smartphone, at least.

Proper voice technique – Voice sends signals, let’s make sure we are sending the right one.


13 Fundamental skills to be successful


About a week ago, as I was walking to an evening class, a man suddenly approached me and asked me if I practice any Yoga or Self Realization. Immediately, I thought to myself it was a funny thing because that day I was thinking about finding new ways that can help me meditate. So I told this man that I meditate every once in a while. He pulled out a book written by A. C. Bhaktivedanta Swami Prabhupada , and began to talk about Bhagavad-Gita, a Hindu Philosophy, something I’ve never heard before.

He showed me some of the art int he book and began to explain in detail the meaning of the art.

The firts picture is a symbolism of Karma: “In the next life, beings will have the body suitable to do us the same harm we did to them. That is the natural law.” The second picture represents reincarnation: “Our body ages with time, from born to death, but our spirit stays the same and travels from body to body.”

After the man talked for about 5 minutes he said he was going to give me this book because I seemed like a smart guy: ) He also said there was an optional donation which will proceed to his spiritual group. Since I found it to be a coincedence that I he came up to me this day, I gave him the only bill I had-10 dollars. Hopefully someday I obtain some spiritual knowledge from this book and make those 10 dollars worthwhile.