5 Steps to Make a Memorable First Impression

Let’s face it – every time we meet someone the first thing we do is a visual profile. Whether we realize it or not, we do a glance of what they are wearing, their hygiene, perhaps their hair / haircut. Before the person even says a word, we already have an idea on our minds of wether we will like this person or not.

For this reason, when you want to make a memorable first impression, it is very important to be on top of your game, not just on the way you speak, but the way you dress.

For too many men, dressing well is a quality they feel they don’t need and it’s not important. They think people should like them for who they truly are, and they shouldn’t try to impress anyone. Most likely, these are the people with zero ambition, play video games, watch every fucking football game, and eat cold pizza with their roommates.

If you really want to make a memorable first impression, be ready to follow these 5 steps:

1) Dress Well
Just like I mentioned in the intro, dressing well is one of the most important, if not the most important steps of all. You must dress well, because the way you speak is not the first thing people see. Dressing well, especially as a male, is what separates you from the crowd. What do we assume about people that stand out? We assume that they are important. Good things come from dressing well, period.

2) Formal Greeting
When you meet someone, make eye contact and have a firm handshake. This shows respect and professionalism. Nowadays, many people greet someone by raising their head. I can go on by trying to explain why that isn’t okay, but I hope everyone can figure it out on their own.

3) Etiquette
Be respectful and have good manners. A lot of this involves putting other peoples needs first.

4) Non-verval communication
Your non-verbal communication is what will speak louder. Always deliver yourself with confidence. Be mindful of how you stand, sit, and move your hands. People will pick up your non-verbal communications and make a final judgement on you. One of the best non-verbal things you can do is smile.

5) Keep them wanting more
When you leave the room, you want other people to want more of you. Add some uniqueness in your style or delivery that will set you apart. When you speak, say enough, but never more.

5 Steps to Make a Memorable First Impression

Changing Tactics for Social Impact

You don’t know how many times I ask myself what is my purpose of having and spending time on my social accounts. Most of us use it as a distraction, to see what other people are doing, follow some celebs, and find interesting stuff. It’s an personal escape via social media.

But I’ve always tried to find another purpose other than just an escape. In fact, I try to avoid using social media as a distraction because it is in fact a big distraction – and it gets addicting. I try to use my social accounts to provide some type of value, by sharing some of my knowledge and experiences, some quotes and interesting stuff.

Today I had a discussion with someone on the way I deliver my messages and posts. Even though the intention of the message is to promote positivity and inspiration, many people can take it wrong because I’m telling them what they don’t want to hear.

Everyone speaks of making the best out of life, but many never leave their comfort zone to find the extraordinary

In the quote above, my intention is to motivate people to get out of their comfort zone and create new or out of the ordinary experiences. But it can be taken wrong because I told people what they don’t want to hear. We all speak of making the best out of life, yes. But nobody wants to be reminded how they suck because we decide to stay in our comfort zone – and people can get offended.

Some of my messages, al though with good intention, are telling people what they should or shouldn’t do. My thought is that people get offended by my posts because I am just talking on a level of success – when most of us connect mainly on the struggles.

Reality is that I’m not looking to please everyone, I’m not looking to change my thinking, but I know I should be more aware of who is reading my message and word it in a way that is understood by those who I want to target. Pay closer attention to my audience.

For a long time, all I have been personally following or listening on social media is people who have achieved the level of success that I want. These people are very, very direct and they don’t tell people the nice things people want to hear, they tell what will get shit done. “Oh you are scared to start your own business? Stop being a little bitch, and make it happen.”, “Oh you haven’t reached the salary you want? Why are you not putting in the extra time to make it happen?”. That shit works for me, and motivates me to get moving, and it motivates thousands of entrepreneurs. We don’t need empathy, we need the reality.

Listening to all those entrepreneurs, business owners, and motivators has helped me a lot. But in a way, it has also screwed up my thinking on how to deal with normal people. When I try to deliver positive messages, sometimes I say “why aren’t doing this?” or “you need to do this”. My thinking is, “Okay there is a problem, and here is the solution”. But normal people don’t like that shit, they hate it because most of us hate being told what to do.

From today forward, I am going to work on changing my tactics for a greater positive social impact. I’m going to pay attention to who my audience is, which consists mostly of people who don’t own a business, people who want to do better in live, but may not be at a level of motivation or ambition that I am. It’s all about how I deliver the message. It’s about not just providing solutions, but also having empathy. It’s not about just showing success, it’s about showing struggles – which many of us have. That is how people will connect with me.

Today I was told: “Just tell people what they want to hear.” It clicked. I got it. All this time I’ve been telling people what I thought they should hear.

Changing Tactics for Social Impact

How to raise above the noise and stay focused

Sometimes it seems like when we figure about something we really want to do in life, there are always other distractions that pull us away or make it close to impossible to get it done. What is worse is that we end up making decisions during a stressed or pressured state, that we end up doing what we didn’t want to do. I’m sure this has (or will ) happened to everyone.

Everyone wants your attention and everyone is telling you what to do – Your mom, your dad, your teacher, your priest, your friends, or some guy on television telling you how to do your shit.

In order to raise above the noise and stay focused, all you have to do is follow this 3 step plan:

1) Remind yourself of why you are doing it
When you need to do something that requires a lot of time from you, write down the purpose. It is important that you find clarity of what you want so you can act with intention. What will you settle with and not settle with? Then read it out loud, every morning.

2) Surround yourself with the right environment
You are the average of the 5 people you spend your most time with – if you want to change your mindset, find friends that have the mindset you want. If you want to go to the gym, fill up your closet with gym clothes and a pair of athletic shoes. If you want to earn more money, read and follow the people that make lots of money in your profession.

3) Step out of your comfort zone
Try doing things that scare you, things that excite you. Get used to handling tough situations and rejections.

All these 3 steps must be practiced to rise above the noise and stay focused.

If you are not willing to do ALL OF THESE, don’t even bother chasing your goals – might as well go to bed or sit in the couch and watch TV. #classdismissed

How to raise above the noise and stay focused