I Will Become a Modern Gentleman

I’ll be the first to admit, I’m not the best on being a gentleman. Rarely do I open the car’s door for my female companion, I have the bad habbit of cutting the entire steak into bite size pieces before I begin eating, I use my smart phone in social places, and if I’m having a good time, I don’t watch my drinking when out in public. I’m often direct, and “Fuck it” is a highly used phrase in my vocabulary.

However, I’d like to think I have a few gentleman qualities, such as dressing well, I enjoy fine foods and drinks, I love to dance, enjoy theatre, listen to various types of music, and I can be very friendly. I am also aware of many of the gentleman traits, even if I don’t practice them. That’s a good start, I guess.

Good news is, today I decided I will become a modern gentleman. I bought the How to Be a Gentleman book, it has good reviews so I hope to learn a few things.

Not only did I purchase the book, but I also got a pair of tickets for the Giuseppe Verdi IL Trovatore opera show, and will enjoy a glass of champagne.

At least you know, I am trying ;)

Modern Gentleman

I Will Become a Modern Gentleman

Why I Don’t Watch TV

I cancelled my cable TV recently. On average I turn on the TV for about 1-2 hour a week, and it’s not worth paying $30-$40/month on something I hardly ever use. The few times that I turn on the TV is to watch a recorded show or a movie/documentary online.

The reason I got cable TV in the first place was because I had visitors staying at my house for a few weeks and it would make me a really bad host if I didn’t provide the visitors any time of entertainment.

Every time I meet up with a friend or at work talking to my colleagues and the topic of TV shows come up, I mention it clearly: Don’t ask me about TV shows or sports, I don’t watch TV much. It’s actually amusing seeing their reaction as they ask, “well what do you do?” It’s hard for me to grasp that question. Sometimes I feel bad (at times upset) because they think everything they see on TV is real.

One example is my sister. At times I would visit her and I would see that she was watching Jersey Shore or Keeping up with the Kardashians. OMG out of everything, I hated those two shows the most. I would argue with her a bit, telling her not to waste her time watching that bullshit, but I tried not to insist. Reality is, some people understand the reasons, others do not.

Some people find the pleasure on sitting for hours on end in front of a TV, and if that’s what makes them happy, then it’s okay. I decide to spend my time on activities that are more productive and make me happy. Don’t get me wrong, every now and then I do like to unwind by drinking a glass of wine and watch a movie. Or during designated cuddle time he he :)

What do I do with my time? I wish I had enough time to do many things, but I can only do a few. I do the following the most:

– Work – I rather not work and be at the beach, but I was not born a billionaire

– Write – It helps me with gathering ideas and expression

– Listen to music – It inspires me

– Home chores – I think this necessity is a waste of time, I wish I didn’t have to, I’m seriously considering hiring a maid

– Read a book – Learn interesting things

– Gym – It releases stress, boosts testosterone, and keeps me healthy and looking good

– Eat – This chico right here gotta eat, baby

– Converse – So how was your day?

– Visit family – Hi, Mom

– Salsa classes – I like dirty dancing

– Intimacy – :)

– Social life – Japanese food, cigars, whiskey

Why I Don’t Watch TV

Today I Decided: Remain Emotionally Strong

During our hardships is when we are the most vulnerable. It is the time when we are not thinking clear, have a lack of energy, with little desire to talk to anybody. The symptoms of depression. Even though I’m going through a hardship at this moment, I decided I must remain emotionally strong. I have to do it, not only for myself, but for the family and friends that, in a way, depend on me. I’ve always felt the responsibility to be the solid emotional base in my household. I must stay emotionally strong to help others move forward.

It is hard, but I know I can count on friends and family to help me when I need it. I’m thankful for that. I’m thankful now.

Today I Decided: Remain Emotionally Strong

Sade Pandora Radio Station

A friend recommended adding the Sade station to my Pandora Radio last Friday, and I decided to listen to it this afternoon. It has a good selection of music, mostly soft tone but with a good vibe. With some high quality audio speakers, this will be a good station to play in the background while having a pleasant conversation, during dinner or while sipping on a glass of champagne.

I created a short list of likes when I listened to it for a couple of hours.

In the air tonight – Phil Collins

Thank you – Dido


If I ain’t got you – Alicia Keys

Can’t take my eyes off of you – Lauryn Hill


Keep gettin’ it on – Marvin Gaye

Love Song – Adele

By Your Side – Sade

Sade Pandora Radio Station

RIP Doña Domitila

I can hear the rain water dripping from the rain gutters. Pandora is playing Los Bukis and other grupos music from the late 80’s early 90’s. Not my first choice of music, but the songs are calm enough to let me think. I’m recalling my experiences from this weekend, starting on Friday night. Emotions hit both extremes of happiness and sadness, I have no idea how I feel right now. I showered and needed to sit down on my bed to write what I can not tell anyone at this hour.

I’m alone for tonight, the night before my birthday.

I  got home at 930pm tonight. A month ago, I had scheduled being out this weekend to celebrate my 31st. Initially, I planned to take a trip to San Diego, but that later changed to San Francisco. On Saturday afternoon, the plans changed yet again. Only this time I knew I was no longer doing any type of celebration at all.

We got news that my wife’s grandmother, Doña Domitila, who had raised my wife since she was 5 years old, was in bed from her sickness and receiving the blessing from the priest. We immediately packed our bags and drove off hoping we could still see her alive. When we arrived to our destination we come to a home full of family members with teary eyes. The looks on their faces made me think, Doña Domitila was no longer here. As we walked in people broke down crying. I couldn’t help but to feel their pain. Minutes later, I realize Doña Domitila was still alive, but not steadily conscious.


I can no longer write. I just got a message to inform me she has passed. May she have a peaceful journey to heaven, and God keeps her in his glory. Rest in peace Doña Domitila.

RIP Doña Domitila

Rough Monday

I’m not one of those that complain all Monday about it being Monday. Last Monday sucked though, for a couple of reasons. I woke up early knowing it was going to be a long week, and I decided to prepare myself by going to gym. Had a good start.

Going into work, I was already stressed for being behind on some projects. Around noon, my wife calls me to tell me her car just stopped and I makes a weird noise when she tries to turn it on. I told her to pop the hood and visually inspect the engine and underneath the car. She noticed a black belt was hanging below the engine. While I was on the phone someone pulled up to offer her some help, and they confirmed. The serpentine belt was broken and without it the car is pretty much not drivable.

I decide to leave work early and go pick her up and get the car towed. It took 3 hours for someone to get the car towed and during that time I decided to change my insurance to AAA.

By the time I got home, not only was I tired and hungry, but I was more stressed for missing half a day of work (which I have to make up), and disappointed for not making it to the Kizomba dance class I had already planned to go.

I worked till midnight, running reports and preparing for the business meeting I had the next day.

Tuesday morning I was grumpy for the shit that happened the day before and because I missed my morning workout (which I made up in the evening). It’s the day I have project status meetings and the monthly business meeting for the salon.

By late morning I was excited about the business meeting because I knew the agenda was going to cover good news. January broke records. The girls are doing great and we are all working as a team to keep doing better. The meeting went great, and I feel confident that this year will be great for the business.

I worked on my projects till 6pm and called it a day so I can go to the gym and make up for the missed morning session.

Thank you, Tuesday for changing the outlook of the week from bad to good.

Rough Monday